WHAT IS A FAMILY OF CHOICE?

Most LGBT+ Asylum seekers and refugees come here alone, without a family. COCktail Eindhoven has created a Family of Choice!

WHAT ARE THEIR CHALLENGES?

How do you prove to the IND that you are gay? * How do you prove to the COA that your LGBT+ FAMILY in Eindhoven is real? * How do you prepare for your IND interview? * After status how do you adjust to a new city?

MEET OUR OFFICIAL LGBT+ FAMILY OF CHOICE IN EINDHOVEN...

We support them and they support each other, before the IND procedure, during and after...

Kelvin

Pronouns: He/Him

Identify as: Gay

IND Status: Positive

Country of origin:

Nigeria

Family member since: 2020

Work/Hobbies:

Fashion Designer, Tailor

What does the COC Family mean to you:

It is a place I can call home

Future goals:

To have my own fashion brand and make myself useful in society

Other comments:

I am super excited about this project, it gives hope to those that need it most!

Buraq

Pronouns: He/Him

Identify as: Gay

IND Status: Positive

Country of origin:

Iraq

Family member since: 2021

Work/Hobbies:

Sport, music, dance

What does the COC Family mean to you:

My lovely family, my support, my everything

Future goals:

To be a famous hairdresser

Hind

Pronouns: She/Her

Identify as: Lesbian

IND Status: Positive!

Country of origin:

Morocco

Family member since: 2021

Work/Hobbies:

Sports, Cooking and I love cats!

What does the COC Family mean to you: 

Hope, future and family

Future goals:

I always dreamed to become either a nurse or physiotherapist, however now I have many more jobs in mind...So once I settle down, I will make up my mind and choose one...

Lamin

Pronouns: He/Him

Identify as: Gay

IND Status: In Procedure

Country of origin:

Guinea Bissau

Family member since: 2021

Work/Hobbies:

Construction, painting, hangout with my friends

What does the COC Family mean to you:

It means lot to me, it brought me friendships and unconditional love

Future goals:

To be protected

Elliman

Pronouns: He/Him

Identify as: Gay

IND Status: In Procedure

Country of origin:

Gambia

Family member since: 2018

Work/Hobbies:

Professional Chef

What does the COC Family mean to you:

I know that I am not alone,I always feel happy to see my happy family. They help me to be who I am now, so am super glad to be a part them.

Future goals:

To find ways to help my fellow LGBT people...

Ami

Pronouns: She/Her

Identify as: Lesbian

IND Status: In Procedure

Country of origin:

Sierra Leone

Family member since: 2019

Work/Hobbies:

School, dance, movies

What does the COC Family mean to you: 

It feels like a real family and whenever I am at the COC, I feel like I can be myself!

Future goals:

I plan to become a great nurse. It is something I have been dreaming of for years. Also have a family of my own.

Lama

Pronouns: She/her

Identify as: Pansexual

IND Status: Positive

Country of origin:

Syria

Family member since: July 2021

Work/Hobbies:

Painting, writing, reading, blogging.

What does the COC Family mean to you:

My safe zone at the most difficult times in my life.

Future goals:

To be a book illustrator.

Gerard

Pronouns: He/Him

Identify as: Gay

IND Status: In Procedure

Country of origin:

Cameroon

Family member since: 2022

Work/Hobbies:

Volunteer at COC Eindoven, De Huiskamer, Refu-Bikes, Sports, Cooking, Movies

What does the COC Family mean to you:

It's my community, where I belong, a Family of peace love and joy, where I feel happy and safe.

Future goals:

To feel safe and protected

Other comments:

Stand and fight for the LGBT+ Asylum community!

Sana

Pronouns: She/Her

Identify as: Lesbian

IND Status: Positive

Country of origin:

Pakistan

Family member since: 2018

Work:

Logistics operational support representative.

Hobbies:

Sketching/drawing and hiking.

What does the COC Family mean to you:

A family which lets me be myself completely and loves me for who I am.

Future goals:

Live my life to the fullest, have the peace of being at home here, and support those who are still in the struggle for freedom.

Zafar

Pronouns: He/Him

Identify as: Gay

IND Status: Positive

Country of origin:

Pakistan

Family member since: 2016

Work/Hobbies:

Volunteer work at COC Eindhoven and in the Zorg

What does the COC Family mean to you: 

A place where I am safe, happy and always respected

Future goals:

A career in Logistics and Transport.

Any other comments:

I have been a part of COC Eindhoven and COCktail since 2016. During those years, I got lot of support, attention and respect from #TeamEindhoven.
Thanks for everything #FamilyOfchoice!

Ahmed

Pronouns: He/Him

Identify as: Gay

IND Status: in Procedure

Country of origin:

Morocco

Family member since: 2022

Work/Hobbies:

Mini football, volleybal

What does the COC Family mean to you: 

My safe place right now and my only family

Future goals:

To be a social worker

Adam

Pronouns: He/Him

Identify as: Gay

IND Status: Positive

Country of origin:

Morocco

Family member since: 2021

Work/Hobbies:

basketball and fashion

What does the COC Family mean to you:

COCktail is just f**king lovely! I liked how it made me accept myself more than before, and it played a part of changing to a better version of myself. I like that no matter how I act nobody judges me or looks at me in a weird way, The COC family helped me to be more confident about myself

Future goals:

I like to become a model for a fashion designer and I would like to live my life to the fullest

 

Mustafa

Pronouns: He/Him

Identify as: Gay

IND Status: in Procedure

Country of origin:

Iraq

Family member since: 2022

Work/Hobbies:

Chef, sports, fashion, travel model, surfing, playing tennis, designing decorations and an ambitious person
What does the COC Family mean to you: 

The Only Refugee LGBT Big happy family Support and motivation for all newcomers means a lot
Future goals:

Owner of a brand of special clothes and models Owner of an exclusive restaurant for Arab taste Supporting homosexuals in my country and building a civil organization for gay men in Iraq because I do not want them to be oppressed by society

Abdelali

Pronouns: He/Him

Identify as: Gay

IND Status: Positive

Country of origin:

Morocco

Family member since: 2021

Work/Hobbies:

Traveling, movies, dancing

What does the COC Family mean to you: 

COC for me is like a real familly, I can be who I am and we help each other!

Future goals:

I hope to become a well-known makeup artist and haidresser, this is my dream!

Susana

Pronouns: She/Her

Identify as: Lesbian

IND Status: Positive

Country of origin:

Georgia

Family member since: 2021

Work/Hobbies:

Reading,painting, playing the piano/guitar, singing,writing.

What does the COC Family mean to you: 

A place where everything is united, warmth, love, safety, support. I am glad to be part of this family

Future goals:

My goal is to deepen my knowledge in criminology and work as a body language expert.

Any other comments
“It is absolutely imperative that every human being’s freedom and human rights are respected, all over the world.”

Sohaib

Pronouns: He/Him

Identify as: Gay

IND Status: VidK

Country of origin:

Morocco

Family member since: 2021

Work/Hobbies:

Cooking, biking and travelling

What does the COC Family mean to you:

One big happy Family for us!

Future goals:

To repair electronic cars

Tevin

Pronouns: He/Him

Identify as: Gay

IND Status: Positive

Country of origin:

Jamaica

Family member since: 2019

Work/Hobbies:

Gym, Reading inspirational or gay novels, going to the movies & karaoke.

What does the COC Family mean to you:

That I am not a mistake. That there’s someone out there who understands me, who walks the same path and who has a story. Even though we are all running from our place of birth to be truly ourselves elsewhere, we are full of love, positive vibration and great attributes that can transform this world and COC reminds us that we are worth it!

Future goals:

English Teacher / Human Rights Activist at Geneva International Centre for Justice (GICJ) Switzerland.

Other comments:

Dance to the beat of your own drum even when no one else is hearing it.

Muhammed

Pronouns: He/Him

Identify as: Bisexual

IND Status: VidK

Country of origin:

Gambia

Family member since: 2022

Work/Hobbies:

Driving, Browsing, Sports, Gym, Netflix

What does the COC Family mean to you:

COC have a good impact in my life, it brings me a weariness, and comfort with my orientation, and happiness, also new friends.

Future goals:

I want to become a software programmer, also to run a program of a LGBTQ+ organization

Any other comment:

As a bisexual Muslim, I frequently grapple with the complex issues that arise from being part of two distinct identity groups. I strive to find acceptance and understanding from my faith and from those within the LGBTQ+ community in order to live an authentic life aligned with my beliefs and values. I seek to foster dialogue and education about the intersection of faith and sexuality, and I am working to ensure that all people, regardless of their sexuality or gender identity, are respected and validated.

 

 

Sheldon

Pronouns: He/Him

Identify as: Gay

IND Status: Positive

Country of origin:

Trinidad & Tobago

Family member since: 2018

Work/Hobbies:

School and Cooking

What does the COC Family mean to you: 

It means a lot, my brothers, sisters, Mother and father all in one! I always feel welcome!

Future goals:

To become a super model 😉

Ahmed 040

Pronouns: He/Him

Identify as: Gay

IND Status: VidK

Country of origin:

Iraq

Family member since: 2021

Work/Hobbies:

Football Reading Sports Cars

What does the COC Family mean to you:

COC family means I can finally feel like I can be myself.

Future goals:

Be a football coach

 

Afak/Ash

Pronouns: They

Identify as: Non-binary/Queer

IND Status: Positive

Country of origin: Lebanon /Syria

Family member since: 2022

Work (Volunteer work):
-Hair, Makeup artist and production assistant for Babaddar Noord Nederlands toneel and production responsible for Dabke dance workshops.
Soon acting.

Hobbies:
Drawing- reading- DJ playing- movies

What does the COC Family mean to you:
COC Family is my chosen family, Its home for me.

Future goals:
Help other LGBt refugees, create workshops for them because i see many of my family members still can’t find a safe workshops place so they are only waiting IND and drowning in depression.

Any other comments:
Thank you Jordan for being there for everyone♥️

Musa

Pronouns: He/Him

Identify as: Gay

IND Status: Positive

Country of origin:

Syria

Family member since: 2022

Work/Hobbies:

Currently, there is no work, but I am a beginner in learning the Dutch language and I love dancing and swimming

What does the COC Family mean to you:

It's my new family here. COC has been supportive of me every step of the way and gives me a lot of counseling assistance and also some great parties!

Future goals:

Become a women's hairdresser

 

 

Zeelanda

Pronouns: She/Her

Identify as: Transwoman

IND Status: in Procedure

Country of origin: Egypt

Family member since: 2018

Work/Hobbies: Data Analyst, Watching Movies, Listen to Symphonic Metal

What does the COC Family mean to you: 

Acceptance, place where I truly belong with loving family.

Future goals:

Create my own Organization

Ibrahima

Pronouns: He/Him

Identify as: Gay

IND Status: In procedure

Country of origin:

Guinea

Family member since: 2022

Work/Hobbies:

I want to be an international big truck driver

What does the COC Family mean to you:

COC for me is like a real family, I can be who I am and we help each other

Future goals:

When I have the means I will help my family coc🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈